Avoiding the Sex Sermons?
Posted: February 21, 2011 Filed under: Church, Pastoral Resources Leave a comment »Pastors, if you have avoided doing a sex sermon or series at your church, watch this video, think about the statistics it shows, and do something this year. The church has demonized sex so much that people are either afraid of it or jump headfirst into it to find out for themselves. The Bible has much to say and teach on this topic, and only the church has the resources to teach it correctly. Let’s change the idea of sex in this generation rather than contributing to the problem.
HT: MMI
Is Your Daughter Church Ready to Fly Solo?
Posted: February 18, 2011 Filed under: Church, Pastoral Resources 1 Comment »I am in great support of the influx of church planting networks that focus greatly on creating “church-planting-churches.” Planting networks like PLNTD and Acts 29 have made this a major point of emphasis in their overall missions. The churches these churches plant are typically called “daughter churches.” They tend to be smaller versions, in leadership and governmental structure, of their “mother church.” This is assuming, of course, that the long-term goal is that the daughter church will become its own fully self-sustaining body.
The question I usually hear from pastors who are or are hoping to be a mother church is, “How do/would we know when the church we plant is ready to be her own church?”
I think that there are three main characteristics to gauge it by:
1) Gospel-driven – Does this church see itself as a local body with its sole mission to serve and share the Gospel of Jesus Christ? There is no more paramount characteristic than this. Are the leaders and members of the daughter church largely sitting by and forming a holy huddle every Sunday, or are they actively engaging their community?
2) Trustworthy Leadership – A great question to ask yourself is: Would I allow the pastor(s) of this church to lead in the mother church? Now, it’s likely that you determined this early on in allowing this leadership to be there in the first place, but it is necessary to continually train and observe the leadership to see that they are shepherding the way you had hoped.
3) Self-supporting – Of course, a key aspect of mothering a church is that you are supporting it financially. In turn, it would make no sense to turn this church loose, as it were, without it being in a position to support itself. If the church is making budget by the skin of its teeth, would have to cut cost immediately if you stopped supporting it, and/or has a fluctuating attendance then this church is probably not ready yet.
Christians and Internet Presence: A Roundtable with Wax, McCoy, Wilson, and Smith
Posted: January 9, 2011 Filed under: Church, Daily Life, Gospel, Interviews, Pastoral Resources 16 Comments »In attempt to look at the practicality and benefits of social media and blogging for Christians, three friends who have experience with popularity in the blogging and social media world (with 4-digit Twitter followers and top 100 Christian blogs) joined me to discuss. It is my aim that this discussion would help you personally and the Church as a whole consider the Kingdom implications of blogging and social media.
For another great discussion, see: Preaching Today
The Panel:
Trevin Wax
BLOG: Kingdom People
TWITTER: trevinwax
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Steve McCoy
BLOG: Reformissionary
TWITTER: stevekmccoy
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Jared Wilson
BLOG: Gospel-Driven Church
TWITTER: jaredcwilson
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Brandon Smith
BLOG: Modern March
TWITTER: BrandonSmith85
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In an age when everyone has a presence on the internet, should Christians consider blogging? And if so, what should they aim for?
What should we aim for? Generally speaking, the glory of God and the good of the church. That’s general, you say, so not so helpful. But to get more specific would require me to make rules that might not apply to all blogs. Some blogs are intended to be challenging for church leaders. Other blogs try to provide helpful book reviews to people who want to read more. Some blogs are personal commentaries sprinkled with insights into the Christian life. Other blogs link to good content on the web. I think a Justin Taylor has a specific aim quite different than say, Tim Challies. Justin is more a curator of content, whereas Tim is a creator of content. The specific aims are different, but I think both guys are trying to serve the church in their own way.
*BRANDON SMITH: The ultimate aim, as Trevin so perfectly stated is “the glory of God and the good of the church.” To me, this even includes the Christian who isn’t necessarily blogging about Christianity. If a Christian wants to start a sports blog, family blog, or random photos blog then they should do so with clear Biblical ethics and practice.
There is a cultural myth that states that God is separate from our work, hobbies, etc. There is nothing further from the truth because God is the God of our ENTIRE lives, not just our “spiritual” life. With that in mind, whatever we do on a blog or social network should still reflect Christ and not place you below reproach. Are you perfect? No, and that isn’t my point. But, it goes without saying that blogging in a way that is sinful or causes your brothers/sisters to stumble is not wise.
*JARED WILSON: I agree, and I really like Trevin’s emphasis on how the blog world is not a big deal. I encourage bloggers, especially those who are well-known to somewhat well-known, to have close friends who simply don’t care. They don’t read, aren’t interested, don’t care. I would encourage this extra especially to well-known Christian bloggers who pastor churches or have book deals or what-have-you. Surround yourself with people who are unimpressed by anything that happens online. Maybe find some who don’t even own a computer!
*STEVE MCCOY: Blogging can be kind of whatever you want it to be. A Christian may want to start a blog in the hope of generating revenue for their kids’ college education by putting up good online deals for pots and pans. Whatever, have fun, make some cash. But I’m guessing you mean a “Christian blog” in which someone says God-stuff. Fair enough.
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In an article from Fast Company, the assertion was made that social media (and Twitter in particular) is not an effective tool for influence due mainly to the short shelf life of status’ and massive amount of users. Can social media truly have a positive influence on Christianity, both locally and worldwide?
*JARED WILSON: I may be a terrible person to ask this question, because I don’t spend much time thinking about how much influence social media has. I suppose if I were trying to be a professional blogger (or tweeter) or made a daily connection between my blogging/tweeting and promoting my writing, I would. But my basic reaction to the Fast Company appraisal of social media’s lack of influence is: okay.
*STEVE MCCOY: Yes, no question. It’s just a tool for communication and relationships. Tweets pass away, but Twitterers remain. Each tweet I read impacts me, develops some aspect of my relationship with the author, etc. Couldn’t we be answering this same question about phone calls? For me social media isn’t about permanence of what is said but the permanence of those saying it.
In the debate over “Christian Hollywood,” there are two sides: Those who believe that any sort of fame for a Christian is idolatrous or prideful and those who believe that fame is good if used as a platform for Jesus. Is fame something that Christians should avoid or embrace?
*BRANDON SMITH: “Christian Hollywood” in and of itself is nothing new to the church. Men like Charles Spurgeon donned billboards in England and the duo of George Whitefield and John Wesley preached to packed churches and pastures. Today, however, it is definitely at its height. With media the way it is, Christians can become famous through books, podcasts, blogs, megachurches, and getting on CNN like John MacArthur, Rick Warren, and Al Mohler. We also see role models such as Tim Tebow rise up in pop culture representing Jesus, and representing Him well. In all of these examples, there has been an extremely positive impression left on Christianity as a whole, in my opinion. Of course, the flip side is watching the painful fall of pastors’ public ministries which no doubt fuels the detractors of Christians in the limelight.
The question really comes down to motive. Joining “Christian Hollywood,” wherever you define that line to be, is something that should absolutely not be aimed for. Some of the most idolatrous people that I have met are those trying to get famous. It’s dangerous to even think of it as “fame;” I prefer the operative word “influence.” There is certainly nothing wrong with influence if your motives are to see the lost saved and the church edified. We are all sinners with the tendency to think we “deserve” something and we want to be recognized. This part of our insecure pride is probably unavoidable, but the temptation is manageable if you rely and lean on the grace of God alone. We could all go the Kirk Cameron Fireproof route and smash our computers or avoid technology like the Amish, but I think it’s much more helpful to pray and beg the Spirit to break our egos.
In relation to blogging, Twitter, Facebook, etc., I think Jared made a great admission in an earlier question when he stated, “Obviously I am interested in some level of influence, or else I wouldn’t post my thoughts in public forums for others to read.” If you own a blog or frequently post on social networking sites, then the chances are that you desire to be heard. I don’t think that this desire should be demonized, but you should be sensitive to what is driving this desire. Is it to be the next John Piper and see your name on books, or is it to use your God-given writing talents or theological insights to see the Kingdom advanced? I always remind myself of this: God has given me X number of blog readers, Twitter followers, Facebook friends, and other contacts in order to glorify Him and fulfill the Great Commission in whatever small or large way He has granted me to do so. I would be remiss to prostitute His gifts for my own gain.
*TREVIN WAX: Brandon, I agree that there is nothing inherently evil in thinking you have something valuable to say. Everyone who ever preaches or teaches could be accused of pride if that were the case. Dave Harvey’s Rescuing Ambition has been helpful to me in thinking through the ways that ambition can be harnessed for the glory of God. Yet, I must admit that however much we try, even our best motives are tainted by sin. If we think they aren’t, we deceive ourselves. So blogging (like teaching, preaching, writing, etc.) must take place within a context of continual repentance, with the added hope of stewarding wisely whatever amount of influence God gives us.
*STEVE MCCOY: I think it’s complicated. Some famous Christians are shaming Christ and others are making Him known. Some are getting rich off books for selfish reasons and others are providing resources that are changing lives. Fame seems to be associated with pride, yet some of the famous Christians who have influenced me most are known because they are generous and humble and speak with a sense of God and eternity.
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What are some practical ways that social media and blogging can benefit churches, church leaders, and their audience?
*JARED WILSON: My experience mirrors Steve’s fairly closely except for his last statement on receiving visitors based on web-based information. I live in an area where very few adults are on social media. Many are on Facebook, particularly teenagers, but virtually no one’s on Twitter. There is a sizable minority here in rural Vermont who aren’t on the Internet or don’t even have a computer. And then among those over 30 who access the web, they are rarely on any kind of social media.
Be Authentic
Posted: November 27, 2010 Filed under: Church, Daily Life, Gospel Leave a comment »To the detriment of many church services, Christians tend to be either over-charismatic or over-stoic during worship. I suspect that this is pride on both sides of the scale. The over-charismatics are in competition (albeit with themselves) to appear super spiritual and the over-stoics are too proud (whether intentionally or not) to show real emotion due to the fear of “looking weird.” Sadly, this spills over into our daily lives. We all know the Ned Flanders at the office that seems almost fake and the guy who you’d never expect as a Christian simply because of his lack of excitement about anything.
Though most Christians are used to this dynamic, non-believers visiting your church and watching you live your life are not. Though not always as skeptical or jaded as many Christians are toward each other, outsiders can often tell whether or not the Christian is authentic in what they believe and how they show it. As a former agnostic, I can confirm this to be true. The postmodern world is looking for authenticity, not a show (or lack thereof).
The key is not to be critical of or encourage anyone to “work on” how they worship or present themselves, but rather to plead with you to be real when doing it. Contrary to popular belief, your faith is not about you.
Day-to-day and week-to-week, do non-believers see a lover of Jesus or a thespian?
Thoughts from a Young Pastor
Posted: November 5, 2010 Filed under: Church, Pastoral Resources, Testimony 5 Comments »Being in ministry at a young age can be daunting. Often times, young men dive head first into a ministry role (typically working with youth is an entry point for any wet-behind-the-ears pastor) with a swagger and confidence that screams, “I’m gonna change this church MY way!” At least, that was my mindset. Successes and failures come, heartache makes you want to quit, growth makes you want to pat yourself on the back, and everyone in the church has “advice.” The fact is, ministry is never as it seems. Your bad days are sometimes the days that you grow the most (unknowingly), and the good times are always sweeter than expected.
The hardest part for me, to this day, is the disadvantage that comes with being the youngest guy on the staff. No matter how much you read or how much experience you have (I’m 25 and in my third church ministry position), many – if not most – of the staff and congregants will not take you as seriously as you’d like. As an elder and pastor at our church, there are times where I feel hesitant to speak into meetings or general conversation because I’m not sure that anyone will heed my opinion. Fortunately, the other elders respect my voice but, trust me, it’s difficult to tell a 50-year old deacon, “I told ya so.” When I get the opportunity to preach, I have to try and use the experience that I do have as the backbone for my sermon so that people do not tune me out. As much as I’ve read about and would love to teach on marriage, I’m not married and would be ignored even if my sermon is spot on. And on and on it goes.
All this to say, there is hope for the young pastor. Here is some advice to young pastors from a young pastor:
- Trust the Lord – For whatever reason, God has placed you in this position. Whether you are a youth pastor, single’s pastor, or the lead preaching pastor, God has allowed you to do so. Pray, pray, pray. You will be looked at sideways and tuned out at times, but God will place His Word on the hearts of those it is intended for.
- Heed Paul’s Advice in 1 Timothy 4:12 – “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.” Regardless of detractions, set an example to even the older crowd in your church. Do not be defensive or arrogant, simply teach and live doctrine and love. Be a Christian first and a pastor last; this order of things will work itself out beautifully. If you’re loving Jesus and living for Him, your life will outflow into your ministry. People will notice.
- Listen to Advice – You won’t always take it or put it to use, but entertain advice from older men, more seasoned ministers, and (gasp) even the little old ladies that storm your office all week. You cannot learn everything from books or podcasts, the best teacher is experience. Take full advantage of any criticism or counsel you can get your hands on.
- Persevere – Ministry at any level can and will crush you at times. You can have strong theology and talent, but you are an emotional human being who will take a beating regardless of how strong you are. As Matt Chandler once reminded me, pastors spend all week dealing with other people’s sins and it can absolutely wear you out. Young pastor, grab ahold of Jesus’ grace and immerse yourself in it. Your greatest weapon is the endless mercy of God and a great salvation that only He can provide.









